Who would have thought that 6 months ago my wife and I would fall in to the world of Male Chastity? If anyone had come to me and said you are going to lock your penis away and give your SO the key to hold and decide when you can touch or relieve your penis… “yeah right”….
Well it did happen, by complete accident and possibly fate if you beleive in that we ended up with a CB3000, for all those who dont know what one is, look here
Scarey to all you blokes eh? Imagine locking away your bits in to a plastic shell, you can see, but cannot touch…! Nice..
I remember when I first saw it, “what the hell….” and stupidly curiosity got the better of me and on it went…
Now months later and what a ride, our life has turned a different track, we are now much more than hubby and wife, much more than locked and keyholder, and much more than best friends. I honestly do enjoy being in chastity with my other half deciding when and if I get release, but there is still part of me that occasionally resists, I dont know why, it just does, but once I am locked back up, I am content again, and the hornometer starts to register activity.
Up until recently we were both happy with the 3k, until I found that I can actually still masterbate with it on, and this has just left me disappointed and almost frustrated, so much so that I am now looking at investing in a proper chastity belt.
Manufacturers such as Neosteel, Tollyboy and LockedinSteel are the choices I am looking at, me being located in the UK, sense would say Tollyboy, but for some reason I dont actually like their designs.
I actually prefer the look of the Neosteel, or the LockedinSteel, both thong devices.
Over the next few months I will be making a purchase and then getting used to the selected belt, so hence the reason I have started this blog, I will write down each part of the journey and the end results. See where it takes us…
January 24, 2007 at 1:18 pm |
Does it bother you ever, that your relationship is dependant on a sex toy to make you behave as a loving husband?
January 24, 2007 at 10:15 pm |
Absolutely not, please dont get me wrong, my wife and I have been married for 10 years, and over that time I could count the arguements on one hand, excluding my thumb and a few fingers.
We have a superb relationship, we love each other dearly, and more importantly we respect each other. But best of all we are also best friends.
Chastity is not treated as a toy to make me behave as a loving husband, I already do that, its a way of adding a bit of spice, I love it and so does she.
How many other husbands for no reason what so ever will arrive home with Flowers or Chocolates, or some gift just because he thought of his wife during the day?
February 13, 2007 at 7:25 pm |
I think plenty and it has nothing to do with chastity.
Anyway it’s not flowers and chocolates, but really caring about another person and not taking them for granted.
The idea that one needs chastity devices… to be a good partner is scary.
I have heard the term used many times… about sex… to spice it up. What actually does that mean?
I assume that normal sex is bland.
February 13, 2007 at 8:19 pm |
Never assume as it certainly was never bland, also as my wife so very rightly puts it -
Its not sex, its making love, to the one I love.
We love each other dearly, we fell into chastity by accident, and now we both enjoy it. We certainly dont use it to make a better partner, I am a caring husband, I will on impulse buy my wife flowers, chocolates etc, and not for any other reason except I was thinking of her and thats the only reason I use it as an example, I have always done it, not just when in chastity, have done it for the last 10 years.
Its certainly not to “spice things up”, that would be a reason, for us, its a side effect…
February 13, 2007 at 11:52 pm |
First, I am not saying that you have anything but a great relationship with your wife. I believe you.
Second, I am curious about chastity because I can’t quite understand it and so I ask people who DO it and presumably they have thought about it. Who better to ask?
Finally, my own reasoning and analysis my be flawed and may not apply. But I offer my thoughts and see what the reaction is.
Sex between partners works when both are in the mood for it. When one is and the other isn’t… the one who wants needs to seduce the other one. If they don’t and proceed with sex… it’s basically date rape or abuse.
Many wives have sex when their spouses want… believing that it is their obligation. Hubby doesn’t bother to seduce her either. He’s lazy… He wants a pussy to fuck and her’s is right there.
I maintain that CB are a kinky sex toy. Nothing wrong with that.
I also suspect that those who wear them find it improves their sex life. There is something about their sex life which is better when they are locked and someone holds the key.
The assumption is that once unlocked the partner is dying for sex. This certainly would or could be the case if they are denied sex for long periods. Sex is a natural biological function too. Males even get nocturnal erections.
Then there are those who expect that the locked one will behave better and be more attentive. That is kind of a sad way to make someone behave. Almost like treating them like a child. If you rake the leaves you can have an ice cream.
Or those who demand the locked partner “service” the KH. Now that seems weird. I get mine but you can’t.
What I hear do little of is the kind of chastity where the locked person is released when THEY want by their KH. This means that the KH would either be relieving discomfort or that the locked one wanted to have sex… and presumably would “seduce” the KH and not date rape. The CB is more to insure fidelity… like a wedding band perhaps… more symbolic.
I would not abide the discomfort and inconvenience of these devices. I would also not accept the idea that if I wanted it unlocked I would have to do more than simply ask… like good behavior, or perform oral sex… or do the dishes. That’s nothing short of manipulation. That would make me not only frustrated by very angry. It would mean to me that someone is not caring about MY needs.. or rather deciding what my needs are and when and how to satisfy them. That doesn’t work for me.
I really like my freedom and my comfort… And when I want sex… I seduce my wife… if she lets me.
Does this make sense?
February 14, 2007 at 6:40 am |
When we started and we still maintain it, this is not to make me “do chores”. I work and my wife looks after the house, thats the way we have been for quite a few years, and that will not change.
Lately this has helped because with my job, travelling and work hours, my sex drive has actually lowered, and my wifes increased. With this it has brought us both in line with each other. When locked I want it all the time, and so does my wife.
We also have the agreement that when I ask to be unlocked, it happens, but I will only ask for a reason, ie, discomfort
Certainly not using it to change me, or shape me in to a more attentive hubby, already am, its more symbolic for us.
February 14, 2007 at 11:54 am |
Interesting that you assert that your being belted has aligned your sexual needs. I am not sure if I understood correctly… that traveling and work lowered your sexual needs and being away caused your wive’s needs to increase?
Also that the belt makes them align so that you two are more or less horny all the time and either can unlock the sex toy for mutual pleasure? Is that correct?
What would happen if after some time of having a well aligned and agreeable sex life… you abandoned the belt?
What would happen?
February 15, 2007 at 4:06 am |
When we started dating, and first got married, my sex drive was way above my wifes, then in the past couple of years, hers grew and mine lowered. We dont know why, but since we “fell” in to this situation, we are both aligned.
We both enjoy it, sure it makes you frustrated, all locked up and nothing you can do about it until the key is got, but it adds a bit of fun.
Future..? No idea, I am not one that likes to plan ahead, I am a spur of the moment type… see what path this takes us, and see where we end up.
We have both agreed if we want to stop, we do, if we want to carry on we do.
What happens next week? Next year? who knows.