Dice…

Some say Dice can be lucky, many have had something hanging in the balance of a throw of the dice and many have lost so much because of them.

Why are they important to me? Well we introduced these to add a bit of “what if” to things.

Take 3 dice, the first two are normal, and the third has been modified, it has 3 sides marked D and 3 sides marked W.

Throw the first two normal Dice and add the resulting numbers together, then throw the third, if it lands on D then the result is Days locks, if it lands on W the result is Weeks locked.

So for example, throw a 4 & 5 – result is 9, then throw a D and its 9 days locked.

We tried this and I managed to throw 11, followed by W…. OMG 11 weeks!  My loving KH said “its not as bad as it could have been….” by 1 week. Using this game the results can be anything between 2 days and 12 weeks.

That was the 21st Feb… not even half was through yet, how the hell am I going to last?

New tollyboy tube

Richard has been busy in his workshop of late, designing a newer much more secure tube for those pesky people who think there is a chance they could pull out, not that you could do much when you have because the shield is in the way, but he has created a superb peice of engineering.

From the outside it does not look very different, except for the inclusion of a hood to cover the top of the penis entering the tube, but what is very different is inside the tube.

On the inside is a collar which is smaller diameter that the rest of the tube, set near the top, so once the penis is in the head is infront of the collar, and very difficult to pull back through. Even with the tube unlocked from the belt I find it difficult to pull out! Spot on Richard.

I could not photo the inside to show, but you should get the idea comparing it to a similar idea of the KSD for the CBx000 range of devices. Richards tube is also slightly slanted and because of this puts no pressure on the pubic bone. Very comfy and very very secure.

Appologies for the quality of the picture it was taken in a rush from my mobile phones camera.

So….?

Well…?

Since my last few posts it has been a busy time, after leaving Tollyboy on my last post, I had been measured and ordered a belt, and to their word Richard said it would be ready in under 2 weeks, an amazing 8 days later it was completed! Oh er…!

So off I went up to Tollyboy to collect, I arrived in the morning, but on trying on the belt we found the waist band was too big, Richard said it can happen if people are slightly bloated when measured, so he said he would adjust it and it would be ready in a few hours, I had another appointment so went to that and called in on the way back.

Again true to his word it was adjusted and ready. I tried it on again, and the waist was spot on.

I wasnt sure that the shield was right and we both agreed that I would try it over the weekend and see how it goes, and if so Richard could adjust as required.

So over the weekend I tried it, but it was too long, it could be because the waist band was tightened and now sitting lower at the front, so I roughly measured as best I could and mailed the shield back with my markings on to Richard.

On day of reciept he modified and shipped straight back. It was better, but still slightly too long, so off I went again. This time Richard checked, measured, marked and took me and the belt to his workshop, modified there and then and I tried it on again. Snug as a glove!

That was Friday, and its still on!

Fit – wow….
Snug – hell yes…

Real life? – Most of the time not really aware of it, driving is fine, sometimes it feels like something giving you a hug, other times you forget its there.

Bending/Adjusting? No… with Tollyboy belts you only need to get the rough shape, over time wearing it the belt will bend to your shape.

Sleeping? Slept like a baby, no issues at all and no morning wake ups as suffered in other devices.

So what now?…. watch this space.

Email from Neosteel

Well, it appears Neosteel are unhappy at my blog entry, they feel I should up date my blog, so I will.

My previous entry stands, it is how I feel about the belt and its fit and function. Mr Mende cannot understand how others have not reported issues as I have stated such as adequate drainage and keeping clean, could it be that we are not all the same? Not all with the same tolerances?

What I will say though and I do agree with a point in Mr Mende’s email is that during the purchase I did recieve a very warm welcome and excellant service, a belt was not the only item ordered, and the other item did not fit and was measured by me. Mr Mende remeasured and remade the item, the only additional cost to me was postage. And like I said then I was very very grateful. However Mr Mende it does not change any of the issues I have suffered.

You asked in your email why I did not contact you, well my situation has changed a lot over the past year, and the process of sending items back and forward from Germany just was not an option.

Some customers complain to the manufacturer, others do not. Its life I am afraid.

I know you wish to keep up the good name of Neosteel, and I do not blame you, but I have not said anything against Neosteel in my blog, and anything I do say is simply my personal opinion from my experience, someone elses experience will be different.

Thank you for your email.

So what now?

Well, the issues found with the neosteel have been almost 2 years in the making and finding off.  Firstly the rear cable was too long, with the prospect of sending back to germany for a 6 week wait while it was adjusted I simply cut and re-attached it myself. Then there were the problems with the tube, keeping things clean down there, so I drilled a couple of extra holes, not ideal and not a complete solution, but it allowed up to 7 days wear.  Then finally there was the problem with the waist band pushing on my sciatic nerve and causing pain because the waist band curves down at the back.  How to get past this?

To cut it short -

1. Cable (partially rectified – too long to go in to)
2. Tube – Too hard to keep clean
3. Waist band hurts

So what now?

A couple of months ago I took a trip up to Tollyboy to meet with Richard and view his belts, if you look back over my posts we did consider Tollyboy, but discounted it for a few reasons, the main one being the tube, as many others have thought it does not fully enclose your penis so could be “easy” to pull out of.

At least thats what I and so many others on the web have thought…..

So how does it differ in real life? Quite a good design actually, firstly the front shield is 1mm stainless steel (well he orders 1mm but in the UK it actually ends up being 0.9mm because us Brits apparantly cannot make 1mm…. but thats for another conversation) and because of this there is some flex in the shield as you move, and instead of you spending time bending the belt to you, it forms to your shape as you wear it.  Remember this for a bit further!

The penis tube has wings top and bottom and is essentially a tube, a very nice shiney tube at that, and unlike so make other manufacturers who make their tubes out of a Sheet of stainless and bend, weld and then dip in plastic coat, Richard takes a solid block of Stainless Steel, bores out the middle then mills it down to shape, so you end up with one complete tube, no welds, no seams, no plastic coat that can break down over time, crack and potentially cut you (been there also!) and its just smooth steel.

Now, remember those wings… and of course the front shield, combined together against your body, with the penis in the tube, also keeping in mind the tube is made to the exact diameter of your flacid member, once in, its a complete bugger to get out without the shield, so trying to get your hands in to grab it, and pull, but pull to where? There is a wing above… so your only option is to the side, but where? You seen the width of the shield…. good luck!

By reports you cannot pull out, and if you can, the tube is the wrong size, and Richard will exchange.

So further comparing my experience with Richard, and having a good chinwag, we talked about the issues, lets start in order -

Cable – Adjustment, if I do it, not perfect.  If manufacturer does it, 6 weeks plus postage and cost….

• Tollyboy Cable – Screws in! User changable, simply ask Richard for a longer or shorter cable and he will stick it in the post, you change it by unscrewing! Oh and security nuts – You cannot unscrew when belt is on!

Tube – Fully enclosed in Neo, not easy to clean, remember posts of Cannot see, touch or what ever – also includes cleaning properly!

• Tollyboy Tube – Open ended, yes there are those wings as above, but you can get a cotton bud/Q-Tip/Sponge/Wash cloth in to clean, and by all accounts Tollyboy has had customers in their belts for periods of 6 months plus! (worrying)

Waistband – On current belt it dips at front and back, and hurts after a while, only option with current belt manufacturer is a straight waist band, but that causes problems with posture

• Tollyboy – Drop fronted waist band, but straight at back and above the hips, so no digging in on top of butt cheeks or poking in to hips in sleep.

Other nice details – the rear cable joins the waist band by a pivot joint, allowing flat pack of the belt, movement with you and I suspect easier pulling aside for bodily functions.

After seeing the workmanship and attention to detail in the flesh, I have no doubts as to why Tollyboy earned the title of “the Rolls Royce of Chastity belts”.  I cannot get over the quality of the belts and the simple little ideas that make you stand back and realise someone has put a great deal of thought and effort in to this.

When speaking with Richard I asked why his site had not changed over the years very much or why his prices are so cheap compared to others when the quality certainly beats alot out there, his response was simple “Its what I do, its what we charge, materials have not increased much, and the designs evolve, why bring something new when its not needed? If people want to pay more, they can!”

Richard is working on a new male shield based on the current female shield and will offer it if customers ask, but like most other things he is also willing to make custom designs.

I came away from Tollyboy quite surprised, and also quite disappointed, why? Well if only my first choice 2 years ago was Tollyboy!

So….. like I said above… what now?

Where have I been?

Hard to believe how long ago this all started, and how complicated life can get.  The past year has been hard, and work overtook,  I ended up in a job that took over my life, working on average 12 hour days and from home most weekends and with a boss that was nothing short of a complete shit.

My social and personal life took a complete back shelf, but after 6 months of it I almost felt burnt out, the stress of the job, hours worked and a few other factors just took their toll, and determined not to fall in to the same trap started looking for another job.

This took a further 6 months due to notice period and the lul in the market, but here I am, back, working 9-5, no out of hours, travel time of 30 mins and loving it.  Stress levels have dropped, and my personal life is starting to recover nicely.

So where does that put chastity? Well thats another thing, since getting the neosteel belt, it has give plently of time to adjust and fine tune.  And over that time I found the rear cable was too long, the penis tube slightly too high, and it was a bugger to keep clean because of how enclosed the penis tube was.

Because of these problems I took to modifying the belt myself, otherwise it would be send it back to germany and wait 6 weeks plus paying what ever costs to have it modified and hope it was right on arrival, otherwise another 6 weeks to rectify.

I shortened the rear cable by 10mm, this helped alot, and with bending of the front shield managed to get the tube more comfortable, however cleaning was still an issue, so I drilled to 6mm holes in the bottom of the shield at the front.

Now I can get a cotton bud (Q-tip for our american friend) with shower gel in to the tube and wiggle around to clean, not ideal, but better.

With all the fine tuning and adjustment I found a new issue, one that I cannot change, and sending back to Neosteel will not fix it either.  The waistband, it is their comfort fit, so curves at the front and back, and its at the back thats the issue.  Where it drops at the back it digs in to the top of my butt cheeks, and over the period of a few days wear can hurt and leave quite strong marks.

I tried to bend the waist out slightly in these areas, but could not get past it.  And through some research have found some manufactures make their belts to curve down at the front, but straight at the back becuase of this.

So what now? I have a belt that is near enough right on fit, but pushes against nerves in my butt cheeks and hurts after a few days….. where do I go from here?

Watch this space………

Recommended reading?

On a post from another forum, I came across a recommendation for this book, its a practical guide, lighthearted and wrote specifically for Keyholders. So thinking this might give my KH some ideas and could be fun, I ordered it from Amazon… did I make the right choice? We shall see soon enough, book arrived yesterday and already she has had some fun today… the book is “Male Chastity – A Guide for Keyholders”, available from Amazon and many more. If you click the picture it will take you to the page on Amazon.

Men are pigs!

What kind of facility is this? Out for a nice evening, few beers, call of nature and this is what I had to use… disgusting, makes me wonder if Pub Landlords had to use their own facilities would they improve?

How to bend a Neo

A few have asked my advice on bending the crotch plate for a neo, I have tried to explain that you need to get the crotch plate to roughly match the penis tube, but also keep it so that the tube is entrance is flush and not pushed in, otherwise when you sit it digs in and can hurt a lot after wearing for a while. So in order to help those that would prefer a visual indicator, here you go. Some side on shots of the crotch plate. You can see it comes down from the belt, the curves out around the tube and keeps the tube pointing down and slightly back.  I will add that while this works for me it may not work for your shape.  Also this shape makes it harder to get the key in the lock, sometimes it can be a struggle!

Hope this helps

Higher security than I expected!

Ooops… managed to get a free ticket on Eurostar as part of their testing of the new Kings Cross Line and Station.  So I arrived early, booked to go on three journeys.  Prepared with Laptop, 3G modem, newpaper and more importantly Coffee and Chocolate (sorry addicted).

After going through the introduction area, then through to the main entrance, I could see the security gates, all those on my train were asked to go through security to start to board the train.

While standing there behind a few test customers, I noticed the smoked glass doors open behind the check in desk, only to notice Xray machines for your bags, and Full Body Metal Detectors like those in the airport.

My heart really skipped a beat, I thought I could go through and try to explain… “yes mate, my bits are wrapped in steel pants…!”… I chickened out and left.

Bummer…

Disgusting

I really dont know how women do it, but mens toilets are the pits to say the least, and it only really hits you when you have to sit down.  By wearing a chastity belt you really do appreciate (probably not fully) what women have to go through daily when going out, travelling or going to a pub.  Simple little things, cleanliness, toilet roll, seat that is actually fixed to the toilet, its strange but you take things for granted when you can stand and aim.  I really do feel for women now, and understand at the little things.  Learning to hover is another thing…!

Key dont fit!

I try my key in the front door, but it will not open the lock, I check and yes its definitly the front door key, I try again, no joy.  A quick thought flashes through my head, why would she change the locks? So I ring the door bell.  A few minutes later I can see her coming towards the front door, it opens and before I can say anything she puts her finger up to her mouth and jesters “sssh dear”.  As I close the door behind me and start to walk forward, she stops me, “Now dear, STRIP”

“Eh, whats up dear?”

“I said STRIP, do as I say or stay in that belt for another week”

Next thing I know I am handing her my clothes, and standing there in the hallway in nothing more than my steel belt.  She leads me in to the dinning room and I can see a chair sitting in the middle of the room, with all manner of items hanging around it.  She tells me to sit on the chair, and as I do she starts restraining me to the chair, wrists, ankles, legs, elbows, and eventually even a collar.  When she has finished there is no way I can get off the chair, nothing I can do to stop here and I have limited movement to see what she is doing.

“lets get you cleaned up after a hard days work dear”

She unlocks my belt, and removes the crotch shield, followed by the penis tube.  My penis springs to life, but before he can start to enjoy his new found freedom she grabs a face cloth that has been sat in a bowl of ice water.  I almost scream when it touches, and she gives a very complete wash, while every now and then just wrapping my penis in the cloth.  When she has finished, she goes to the kitchen, I can hear her moving stuff around but cant really hear what she is up to.  My penis is starting to recover from the cold treatment, but that is very short lived.  She enters from the kitchen and places a bag of frozen peas in my lap… “that should cool you down dear while I clean your belt.”

She takes off the crotch shield and grabs the penis tube and off to the kitchen to clean it, I am sat there butt naked, restrained and starting to shiver.  Eventually she returns, and by this time my penis is well and truely numb, there is nothing I can do, and I cannot fight it.  She re-attaches the crotch peice to the belt, puts my penis back in the tube, attaches it all together and I hear the lock close.

“But hunny, why get him out just to do that?”

“because dear, its only Friday night, you dont want it to be over too early do you?  I have you until Monday morning, and I am going to tease the hell out of you until then, and if you are lucky I might let you cum….”

I opened my eyes and found myself face down in the bed, rubbing my crotch on the bed, and having been in the belt for a few days, this is now my normal dream that I get, sometimes it goes further, other times not as.  Depends on how long I have been in the belt.  Will it happen?  Do I want it to happen?  Would you?

Where have I been?

I have had a few people contacting and leaving feedback asking whats happening, dont worry, still here, still locked in the NEO, and still enjoying it.

My life took a “mad moment” for a while, I have changed jobs, changed lifestyle slightly and also had some time out of the belt.

But starting to settle back in to a routine now and getting back on track, have been back in the belt since Thursday, and before that had been wearing it every evening on return from work and over the weekends.  Now its back to full time and frustration!

Will post more soon.

How did it all happen?

Well I have been asked this a few times, how did we get in to this? I have been asked by friends and also had comments such as “How can I get my otherhalf to get in to this?”

What happened for me was a total accident, I knew absolutely nothing about chastity, that it existed beyond Medievil myths and certainly nothing about men having their penis locked away.

On a business trip August last year, you know the score, stuck in a hotel, bored, finished work for the day, and think “Sod it” so you get out and see some of the local sights. So I did, and there is nothing more boring that seeing a City in a different country when you are on your own.

As I walked down the main “High Street” dodging the beggers, Market Research guys, and all the other array of mindless idiots that think they can have 10 minutes of my time for free, I got litterally grabbed by a couple of women dressed in skin tight Lycra… “Come in and enter our draw, its only 1 Euro”…. “What the…”

Before I could put up any more resistance I noticed a guy inside the shop smiling his head off winning 250 Euros of vouchers, then I noticed it was an Adult shop…. saucy… and the wife had been bugging me for a better vibrator for when I am away, who knows could win something nice.

So in I go, hand over my Euro and she tells me to pick a numbered box that has not been opened, so I pick “97 please”….

“Oh… your otherhalf is going to love this, I will go get it”…. “So what have I won then?”

“A male chastity device…” … “you what? can’t I have vouchers or a vibrator or something?” … “Trust me she will love this, I have mine in one and I love it….”

Great… and I grabbed the bag and left, as I stormed out I almost threw it in a rubbish bin as I passed it, I really did think it was a toy, you know the type, something to spice up a stag do, or hen night, but went back to the hotel with it.

Over the next couple of hours I had told my wife about it on the phone and curiosity got the better, on it went and she found out all about this wonderful CB3000 that I had won. It stayed on for the remainder of the trip and the entire journey home, when I arrived at the doorstep I handed her the key, and its been like this since!

Got or getting a Neosteel?

Little tip for those guys getting or have just got a Neosteel belt, you will know when your bending of the belt has paid off, there is a point were you finally think – “this thing fits perfect”, its comfy, and you can sit, stand, walk pretty much without realising the belt is on.  However there may be one or two small “niggles”, a couple of little things were you think I could get rid of those by a bit more bending.

Dont… I have fallen in to this trap twice, and I had the belt as comfy as possible, dont forget you are wrapping your groin in steel, there will be a niggle or two, but providing you can get on and the belt does its job…

I feel for it the second time last week, and on a release decided to see if I could “improve”, all this did was change how the belt sat and it made the cable sit loose and stick out.  I was aware of this all day while at work and contantly checking in a mirror if you could notice it.  When I got home I asked my otherhalf to release me so I could bend the belt, and got it pretty close again, but this time I knew were to bend.

Saturday again some final adjustments and its very close, there is just an increase of pressure on the pelvic bone, with a little care bending I should be able to get the belt back to how it was.

So – be careful, when you get it there, stick with it!

Ultimate Tease?

Whats this you may ask?  This is one of the latest additions to the toy box, its called a Colt Stroker, silicone sleeve with loads of tiny little nodules inside.  Its stretchy and with a bit of lube it gives one hell of a hand job.

Unfortunately its not enough, it will take me to the edge, and keeps me there.

She loves it!

Get out of Jail free?

A few weeks before the Neosteel belt arrived, my wife made me a present and included two “Get out of Jail Free” cards, these entitle me to 24 hours of freedom from the belt to do what I want (obviously within reason!).

Since getting the belt I have not had reason to use them, they are valid for 1 year from issue, so by estimate I have about 8 months left to use them.  Last week she tried to encourage me to fall back on them, by constant teasing.  I saw it as a challenge and not wanting to use them too early I put up a fight.  She took the teasing one step too far and released me.

She said she was not a good keyholder and too soft on me, and that things were going to change, she was going to become more strict and less of a push over when it came to release.

This weekend however its a different story to the norm, no release! No mention of release!  Still the teasing, and still the teasing before bed to give me “pleasant dreams”, but no release….!

Is she getting more strict? How long will she keep me locked this time?  How long before I give in?

Knock the pins over!

First time trying with steel pants on, but went 10 pin bowling tonight, and what an experience, it was strange to run and bowl, and surprisingly I actually managed a few strikes.

My game was never that good, but compared with normal it was slightly off.  All in all, the belt was ok, and did not hinder it much, apart from a little bit of chaffing between my thighs.

An experience none the less.

So how good are they?

Well, we put the cuffs to a good test, we have 2 options for using them, both the cuffs and my belt have the Snap Lock connectors or D-Rings.  My Belt has 2 snap lock connectors on the front, and 2 D-Rings on the back, evenly spaced.  So we have a choice, my hands can either be infront or behind, but in both places they are just as useful.

We first tried the cuffs locked on in front, and snap locked to the belt.  My wife gave me the key for the cuffs to see if I could get out, my left hand – no chance, because of where the hole is for the key, but my Right hand, after dropping the key loads of times, I could get it in the hole, but could not quite engage, so there is a risk that if I had the key, I could get free.

Next we tried them attached by the D-Rings to the back of the belt, when using padlocks to attach the D-Rings together, even if I had the keys for the Padlocks, cuffs or belt, there is absolutly nothing I could do, and believe me I tried.

This position is by far my wifes favorite, she can unlock the crotch shield on the belt, have a tease and lock me back away without any resistance from me, and there is not a single thing I can do to stop her.

We had a fantastic night Saturday, and without going in to details, tested just how strong the cuffs actually are.  If you want serious cuffs, that are secure once on – these are the choice, they are very very very secure.

Something Arrived!

These arrived today from Neosteel, quick snap locking wrist cuffs, they snap to connectors already fitted to the belt, once locked, and even if you had the key you cannot undo, you need someone else to help. Very nice…..! They are s based on the Neosteel Stainless Steel Snap Lock, and called Bondage System Wrist Cuffs, you can find more information here.

Broken in?

Well its hard to imagine, but in 2 days time I will have had the Neosteel belt for 8 weeks.  Time has gone surprisingly quick, and of course frustrating at times.  Some days it would be in front of my mind all the time, almost “get me out of here” and strangely almost panic struck, other days I would completely forget I am wearing it until I bump in to something, or go for a scratch!

I think my other half has realised this and now has up’d the anti, she mentioned “we are going to have to take this belt more serious now”, that old “get our moneys worth” entered the conversation.

Excitement and fear all at the same time, I love the belt, I love the frustration and I love my other half, I love the control she has, and when she gets that glint in her eye, wow…!

Yesterday we had a fantastic time, taking it slow, passionate and loving each and every touch from each other, and with each touch, kiss, caress, I wanted more, I wanted it to last, and for the first time since “playing” with chastity I hit a high, the point of “I want released, but actually I don’t, I want this to last forever, and if I get released, orgasm, then its over”.

It was a very strange conflict to have, and one that I am still thinking over now, safetly locked back up.

An evening with L

Last night was great, nothing beats a Thursday night out in London, so many do it each and every week, and its always so busy.  Soho was bursting and so were the pubs and clubs.

L and I met for drinks, and managed to polish off quite an amount, and we actually got on to the subject of other halfs.  L asked me how long I had been married, and was surprised at the answer, then came the “have you ever cheated”, to this I replied NO, quite simply and absolutely NO, he explained he never had, but when I said I never ever would, he asked “how can you be so sure”.

I did try to explain that I love my wife, always have and always will, and no matter what, I would never do it, its not me for a start, and yes at the moment my wife has that extra assurance!

We talked some more, and it came back to “but what if?”, I replied with “look even if it ever came up, I know hand on heart I couldn’t, emotionally I know I could never, but now physically I could not”…. “eh?”

So the reveal happened, I told L about the journey we have been on, where we had been and how we got here.  He was amazed, and for a second or two actually considered it for himself!  He did say he was going to show his otherhalf, if that was the drink talking or not I guess I may find out…!  I gave L the address for my blog, and said if you are serious, or considering, read my blog and see what you think, get your otherhalf to read it, and if you feel its for you then go for it…!

We shall see… could I have converted another free male?

Ooops my thong was showing….

I went out on my motorbike a couple of days ago, first time riding it while wearing the new belt.  I wanted to see if it could be done, how comfy it was and generally go for a good blast.

Whilst on the bike, I didnt even notice once that I was wearing the belt, in fact I actually forgot.  It was a bit snug, but generally riding my bike you do feel snug down there because you are griping the tank a bit and sitting slightly forward.

I wasn’t dressed up fully in leathers, instead I had my leather jacket, Kevlar Cargo pants (they look like normal jeans), gloves, lid etc., but the one thing I forgot to do was tuck my teeshirt in.

Sitting at traffic lights, I noticed the guy in the car next to me, his vision was fixed on my back, then he would look at my face, and then my back… he turned to the woman in the car with him, said something and then they both gazzed at my back.

I was “what is so interesting…?” thinking to myself… then I realised…. I put my hand to my back, and yes…. my steel thong was showing, from their position they could see the steel hip belt and a steel coated cable going down my arse crack.

Lights changed and I was off…. luckily I didnt know them and my visor is a dark one so you could not identify my face…

Was a funny moment thinking back, but must be more careful in future, and be aware of what I am wearing…!

A Friday night out in the new belt…..

Well it had to happen, a night out with the lads, wrapped in steel…

I met up with PR, T and PW and a friend of PW’s which I hadnt met before.  PR, T and PW knew about the 3k, and T knew about the move to steel, the others had heard but didnt realise it had happened yet.  They thought I was joking.

As the afternoon progressed in to evening, and we were chatting, I was giving PW some stick over something or other and he said his mate didnt know, but if I kept up he would drop me in it, to that I replied “don’t care bud”, of course his friend over heard… “what..what..what?”

Didnt help his friend was a Director for a TV company that specialises in “Eastern European Entertainment”, well easier described as girls wearing next to nothing and only shown on channels late at night.

To that I simply pulled my tee-shirt up slightly to reveal a small portion of the hip band, showing above my jeans, seeing a steel band around my waist was enough to get a reply of “WTF”

The evening went on from there, and the conversation topic seemed to stay focused on this, even though PR, PW and T did not want to know more, a question or two kept coming out.  PW’s friend kept asking questions like “so your wife controls it… she decides… but how… why…and?”

Eventually I said, its easier if I show you just how serious this is, and at that I undid the fly to my jeans and pulled them open enough just to show the lock, “Fuck me thats serious….” was the reply from all four.

For the rest of the night PW’s mate wanted to see the rest, he wanted to see this magical belt, but more than that, he wanted to know where he could get one.

It was a good evening, too much beer, then wine, and a very sore head that followed.

Completed first “Stretch”

Well after 9 days locked up, you imagine what most guys would be like, then imagine during that time being unable to see, touch or even stimulate your penis, how much more sensative your body becomes to the touch of your significant other, how much more responsive you become.

My SO remarked on just how “responsive” I had become, with a glint in her eye, and eventually when I had begged enough to be released, she did, explosive does not even come close to describe it.

Its wierd though, in the Neosteel I feel strange, much different than before in the 3k, I dont know if its because I cannot see, touch or feel, or if it is the sheer helplessness, and relying totally on my partner, in the knowledge that so far this thing is unbeatable.

I had a funny moment as well, one morning after having a hell of a horny dream, I actually woke “humping” the bed, this achieved nothing except to make me even more horny.

Today is the 3 week mark of getting the belt, and its amazing how quickly my body has become adjusted, how quickly I miss wearing it, and yet how quickly I want out when the lock shuts.  Showering has to be the wierdest part, feeling like you are standing there with your pants on…. something I suppose I will get used to.

More soon.

2 Weeks…..

Well it has been 2 weeks since collecting the belt, am I getting used to it? Sometimes I forget its even on, sometimes I cant think of anything else, and other times its just there.  Its strange though, when its off, I miss wearing it and cannot wait to put it back on, the snugness.

I have had a few interesting moments with it over the past 2 weeks, and currently have been wearing it since Friday with a brief time out yesterday and today, but overall sleeping in the belt is not really a problem, quite easy to get comfy and once settled, off to sleep.  4am wakeups still occur, but after a quick trip to the loo, back to sleep in no time.

Will post more soon.

Good night was it?

Just looking through the stats for my blog and how people got to it, and the latest search term was -

“Got drunk last night and woke up with a male chastity belt on”

Well…. where to start with this one?  Have fun….

Progress…..

Well its now a week since collecting the belt, and I have been making good progress (if you can class it as good, my inevitable lock up!).  At the start I wore the belt for up to about 10 hours per day, some days I came out sore, others not.  Gradually bending the belt before each wear going on the previous days sore spots.

Then came Saturday, I stood up without spreading my legs enough, and almost collapsed in pain, having squashed one of my nuts against the crotch shield. OUCH does not describe it enough.

The belt came off and stayed off until recovered, then back in Sunday, and remained in for most of the day.

Yesterday was a turning point, I decided to stay in the belt overnight, and try sleeping in it, it felt comfy so why not?

Sleeping was not a problem, however around 4am I did wake with the attempted nocturnal “stretching of legs” that my penis wanted to do.  This caused a little discomfort and enough to keep me awake for about 20 minutes.

A few times after I did wake due to sore spots on my hip bones, so I still have some bending to do in the hip band, but apart from that, it was a success.  This morning getting ready for work, I had a fight within my head, take the belt off and go to work, or leave it on?

Its strange, I am now at the point already that without it on, I miss it.

SNUG….!

Collected the belt from Neosteel a couple of days ago, and have been wearing it for a few hours at a time since, giving my body time to recover in between.  SNUG does not even come close to describing it, and I swear when the lock went “click” my heart actually skipped a beat.  These things are maximum security.

I will post more as we progress, but just to let you all know, its on…!

Belt Delayed

Not because of the manufacturer and not because of me directly either, but my business trip has been extended beyond the scheduled pickup date of the belt, so things have moved, I have yet to schedule a new date with Neosteel, but it will be a couple of weeks over what was planned.  My KH said earlier that I extended my trip on purpose…. would I?

25 days…….

Or less, depending on when you read this, but thats how many days until I pick up the new belt, 25 days and nights of constantly thinking about it, wondering what it will be like, how long it will take to get used to it, what type of underwear works best, how it is to sleep in, what its like to walk in, will I be able to walk normally…. all these questions and more, but as the days tick by, the questions increase….

On a side note, it is our Wedding Anniversary  and today on the way home on the train, I decided to see what the Traditional gift is for this year, so dug out my laptop, using my mobile I connected to the net, and then errupted in to laughter in First Class as I noticed this years gift is …….. “STEEL”… how appropriate….!  What are the changes of that..? As I looked around, the gent in the pin striped suit looked less than impressed at me disturbing his read of the daily rag, and I could tell he was giving me the usual stare of “should you really be in First Class?” We yes buddy I should, I pay for it, and although where I work is casual and jeans etc, I do actually pay… ok?  (got that off my chest….!)

When I got home I sent my otherhalf the link, only to be met with a fit of giggling…!

Well it finally hit me….

Last night while reading Alisons comments on my blog, I started to think about the return journey to pick up the belt when its ready, then figured out how many weeks are left until that fateful day.

Next thing I know it hit me like running in to a brick wall… up until now it has been, when we get the money together, never a certain thing… well it is now, the belt has been ordered, I am actually moving to steel and last night it finally sunk in… oh shit! How things are going to change……….

Which one?

I have been asked a few times which belt I ordered, and having re-read my last post realised I didnt say…. ooops…

I had decided on the Male Sport Hip Belt, but after seeing the belts in real life and all the options avaiable, also listening to the advice from Neosteel, I went for the System Belt with the Male Sport module, this way at a later date the module can be changed without having to change the hip belt, it also makes upgrades cheaper, with the advantage that the belt can be taken apart for cleaning or travelling.

We had concerns over the system belt when we viewed it on their website, and had thought you could unhook the back of the belt while wearing it, but after seeing one and “playing” with it, there is no way you can disconnect the back with the belt locked.

Serious piece of kit…!

I’ll have that, with that, and that please… when will it be ready?

Well its finally done, been over to Neosteel, met with Reinhold and his wife, they made me feel more than welcome with a steady supply of coffee and biscuits (don’t know if it was because I looked nervous) and talked me through all belts on offer and all options.

Reinhold, sorry for making you miss your breakfast with me turning up early, but after much discussions, I decided on the belt, options and extras, and placed the order.  Reinhold processed payment, then I tried on various Hip Band modules to find the right fitting for me.  Once he had the measurement for that, his wife made the measuring kit, good time to duck out for a smoke!

After it was ready, the measuring began, and Reinhold made sure each one was correct, he was very thorough, and all in all it didnt take that long.

Once everything was settled, we discussed the date for when the belt would be ready for collection, made another appointment, had something more to drink and then I made the journey home.

All the way home, there was one thought going around and around my mind – “are you sure?”, its all well and good looking at pictures on the web, manufacturers sites etc, but nothing can give you even a close idea until you actually have one of these belts in your hand.  It makes the CB3K look like something made out of clingfilm, another way of comparing it is like comparing a Day Release Prision to a Maximum Security Facility with Guard Dogs, huge wire fences and search lights.  Today was like going to visit your prison cell, rapping your hands across the bars and being told – 6 weeks mate and your here…!

Strange day… nervous – hell yeah… excited?  You bet I am…

Day off…

So what do you do on your day off?

Yesterday I spent a majority of the morning chatting through blog and forums with Alison, she posted in her blog yesterday about “His and Her Chastity“, and it did get quite a few responses as well as hits, I must say yesterday even my blogs hits went through the roof compared with normal.

After all the fun on line, I decided even though it is my week off work, I can’t slack now and had to go to the gym, I have been exercising near enough constantly since November and have lost a few pounds here and there, its paying off.

I asked my other half if she could unlock me to avoid embarrasment at the gym, there is no where to duck and hide, and it could result in quite a red face. I have been locked in the 3k for quite a few days, so as she unlocked it she gave me a warning, no playing, pure and simple, if I did…. well..

Normally I go to a gym in London, close to work, good facilities, Pool, and the simple things like given fresh towels when you arrive. Last night I decided to go to the local branch instead of all the way in to London. According to their website they were open until 11pm. I set off at 9pm, thinking I could get a good workout, arrived there at 9.15pm only to be told on reception that they close at 10pm. Imagine how annoyed I was to find they dont give you a towel either!

I had arrived in jogging pants and tee-shirt, and had shorts in my bag, with not much time for a workout I just put my bag in the locker and went about my exercise routine as much as possible in the time I had.

By 9.45pm the staff were walking around reminding people that they close at 10pm, annoyed I started to finish up, went to the locker room and grabbed my bag, came home in a grump and went for a nice long hot shower.

While in the shower, my other half came in and we started chatting, in mid conversation she added things like “dont you want to get back in to your normal attire?”

After a bit of resistance (I really dont know why I put up a fight sometimes, I just do) I was safetly locked back up in the 3k.

I got dried and dressed, we went downstairs, had a cuppa and a chat, and before I knew it, we were in bed and had a very passionate night, this was one of the shorter lockins we have experienced.

We both lay there for a while, gently smiling at each other, kissing and cuddling, and loving it.

“Time for a nice cup of tea……”

Wheels in Motion….

Trip fully booked now, crossing to germany, route planned, hotel booked and appointment confirmed…. its finally happening…. excited? Like a kid at christmas….

The Appointment….

Have been in contact with Reinhold at Neo for a while now, and my appointment is booked for measuring, so in a weeks time its off to their office to have a more indepth chat about the options etc and then measure and order. 6 weeks later the belt should be ready for collection….. no more excuses I guess, exciting times.

This is the one….

For those that have asked which belt, this is the one I am going for, never ever thought I would be opting for a thong though!  Normally hate wearing anything that resembles “butt floss”, but it seems a much better option than chains or a complete belt.

Germany – Much closer than I thought….!

Well, I knew one day this would happen, but the closer it gets… well you can imagine. Today 2 of my mad ebay garage clear outs has netted me just over £500, so with the rest of my auctions, there will no longer be any excuses…

I imagine in about a week or so I will be making the journey to get measured and belt ordered, then 6 weeks later back for collection, then the fun really begins.

3k encouragment

Well, the 3k has been used a lot lately, even though I hate it, I still love wearing it.  Now its acting as encouragment to go to steelpants, and hopefully at the end of next week all my ebaying will pay off.

Search Engine Terms

You know, Alison noticed this and lately I have been tickled on what people use to search to end up on my blog, and of the latest here are the top 3 -

• images of man’s bulge in jeans
• problems with steel bath feet
• Sniff Tissues

Steel Bath Feet? Strange but true…. lol…!

Pretty quiet

Well its been pretty quiet the last week or so, been suffering from Man-Flu and it held on, just starting to go.  Also I injured my leg at the gym, so thats been on hold while my muscle heals.

On the belt front, we have definitly decided on the Neosteel Male Sport hip belt, and will probably go for the System option, which will allow it to pack down for travelling and also allow upgrades to different front peices as we go.

Having done a massive garage clearout, found loads of stuff that I had been hoarding for a few years, that should raise enough cash to order the belt and some extras, so this week will be hitting ebay hard, beeing back in the CB3k has given me a bit of encouragment so to say.

Also I noticed on Alisons blog she had some hits from some weird search engine terms, I have been going through the logs on mine and one that caught my eye was “I want to change my husbands behaviour”…..  makes you think…

An evening with PR

I had a fab evening last night with an old mate (PR), we have been trying to meet up for a beer since Christmas but for one reason or another it could not happen. Finally we both met and had quite a few beers, caught up on old times, and had a laugh, well more than one!

Whilst talking and catching up, we chatted about the last time the gang got together (me, PR, PW and T), I was going to cover this in a separate blog, but what the hell, roll it in to this one.

The 4 of us are very close for “work mates”, well ex-work mates, its been over 7 years since we have worked together, but we still meet up regularly and chat, drink and have a laugh.

There is T – Natuarl Slothe, the guy is horizontal, not a care in the world and thats the way he likes it. PW – What a change this guy has gone through, when I first met him and worked with him, Goth, always wears black, long hair, and when we went away on a “team building” weekend, he decided to blow it, got changed and headed to a club in London, armed with a Spiked Collar around his neck! Now he is settled down, married, hair cut and looks like any other 9-5er in the city. Then there is PR, the old git, short, and generally gets much stick from the rest of us, funny that he was the boss! Always giggles about things, but always there to listen.

Well last time the 4 of us got together, I opened up to them about my CB3k, T thought it was cool, PR giggled, but thought what the hell. PW was shocked! now for a guy that used to go to Bondage clubs, and has probably seen more than any of us, he was genuinely shocked. So much so that he decided to touch my crotch with his elbow… then pulled it away sharply screaming “ooooh”

Both me and PR chatted about this last night, we still cannot get over PWs reaction, if anything we had expected him to drop his trousers and say “Look at what I have, thats nothing”, he is that type of guy.!

The night continued, and we got more and more drunk, chatted some more about past and future, then parted and staggered for our respective trains, it was a good night. These are the only 3 outside of my other half that know, and it is good to share, thanks guys.

Sniff sniff… hand me a tissue

Bugger… down with flu… really knocked me for six, body feels like I have been hit with a steamroller… achy all over, sniffles, blown my nose so much that now it bleeds when I do..! Yikes…

So no gym today or physio… wrapped up in bed, bored, bored bored… and did I say bored?

Advice

Well I took Alisons advice… today finally joined a Gym, although it was not solely on just this.

You see, mid last year I had to have my knee reconstructed, I snapped the main ligament, and generally buggered it. My rehab after the op has been going great, but at Physio I was advised to join a Gym and up the rehab, at this rate should be back to full strength ahead of schedule, instead of the estimated 12 months.

So in a way, this could be good for the move to steelpants, loose the pasta belly, get back to my ideal weight, and stick to it. This is not an overnight “get fit” drive, I have been exercising everyday for the past few months at home on rehab, but now need machines to take it that bit further.

Hopefully the belt should be a nice fit when done, and an encouragment to keep there.

Thanks

Thanks
Tom Hamilton (IP: 24.57.241.202 – Cogeco Cable Canada Inc) for your comments, calling me a sick motherfucker because of my post saying I am horny.

Really apreciated, now sod off and get a life.

Horny….

Still horny… its amazing, you like it, dont like, feel frustrated, feel happy, sad, upset, grateful, pleased, annoyed, fuzzy and yet deep down you still love it.

Last orgasm – Friday 2nd… locking in since Wednesday… released breifly on Thursday, and the hornometer is close to boiling…. but still I get “you wanted me to be more strick dear, I know best…”

Grrrrr… only one thought prominent in my mind… what the hell is this going to be like with a steel belt, one that cannot be so easily defeated as the 3k?

Going to go and chill out watching a movie, try and take my mind off this…

CB3k doing its stuff

Ok, its been a while since I spent any time in this little bugger, but Wednesday I agreed to go back in.  Wednesday night I was teased endlessly, and left extremely horny.  Thursday I had a physio appointment so was released to go to that, then when I got back home it was ordered back on.  Much harder to get back in when your horny as hell.

Last night before bed, again teased like crazy…. and now this morning, horny as hell does not even come close… poor guy is struggling in the cage, trying to break free, and woke me just before 6am….

Whats it going to be like in a steel belt….?

Its all gone white….

Looked outside to see what the world looks like today, and everything is white, snow everywhere.  Nice…

I had thought that it would be the usual “severe weather” – more like a sprinkle of dandruff, but no today its snow, and still snowing, looks quite nice.  Glad today all I have to contend with is a physio appointment, after that the entire day is at home.

Although probably later, a trip to the corner shop will no doubt find a shortage of Milk, Bread and eggs, as what normally happens around here when there is any hint of snow, everyone bulk buys… madness.

The choices…..

Last night we went over each option, the choices and also the replies I got from manufacturers.  Each manufacturer had an option, that if we took a bit from this belt, added it to a bit from that belt, with part of that one, and added this, it would be perfect, or would it?

Anyway, the choices out there are quite surprising, we even looked at manufacturers that did not make the short list, just to see if there was anything we missed.

But eventually it came down to the 3 we had selected, Neosteel, Tollyboy and Locked In Steel.

My other half discounted the Locked in Steel, maybe its the photos on the web site, but looking at them closely the finish on the belts, penis tubes and cables just doesn’t look very good, they look like it was made as part of a hobby and not a business.

Then we went through the Tollyboy selection, I had found a site with pictues of a guy wearing one, and it put me off, the penis tube does not cover it all, it leaves the head exposed, and one guy described that going to the toilet, you end up either peeing all over your balls, or up your arse crack. So that put both of us off. It could be his belt was not measured right, it could be his dimensions, but it was enough to put us off.

Lastly it left Neosteel, we looked through their belts, and both agreed the Male Sport belt was the one, we both like it, it completely encloses the penis, no more touching once locked, and a pretty versatile belt.  We will probably go with the System option, which allows to go for different front plate options later.

There are two main concerns with going for a full belt, one is hygene, especially considering the penis will be enclosed in a tube and no way to wipe it after having a pee, although I imagine women have the same problem with any steel belt.  The second concern is my balls getting squashed either side.  But by all reports and reviews we could find these are not a problem.

We will see.  I expect we will be ordering at the end of the month, which will involve a trip over to Germany to Neosteel to get measured and talk over all our concerns with the manufacturer.

Lunch with T again

Yesterday had lunch with T again, he said he had been reading my blog, and liked what I wrote, still thought I was mad, but is starting to understand why we do it.

He asked when the move to the “Full Metal Jacket” is coming, I said we were still deciding, but could see the trip to the manufacturer of choice at the end of the month.  This would mean an average 6 week delivery time, should put the belt ready by mid April.

We had a good lunch, a few beers, and good chat, T likes hearing about our adventure, shakes his head and always adds “no way would I wear a metal one….”

It sort of always reminds me of conversations with my other half, were we discuss how couples that we know well, and see how rocky their relationships are, would they be any different if chastity was involved?

There is one couple, they argue all the time, doesn’t matter were, or who is around, they always argue.  She always keeps a tight lead on him, doesn’t like him going out, has almost accused him of thinking of having an affair, and frankly its like they have no respect for each other.  Would they be any different if he was locked?

Then there is a guy that works for me, his wife… what a pain in the arse she is, she never lets him do anything that she is not involved with, if there is a staff event after work, someones leaving do, birthday, whatever, if she cannot make it in, he simply does not go.

One night the trains were screwed, we could not get out of London, I cleared it with the Finance Director for the company to pickup a hotel bill, and we would be ok, safe and sorted, his wife on the other hand was on the phone “You WILL come home, I dont care how, you WILL come home” she even wanted to drive in to London and collect us.  Accused him of lies about the trains and it actually stressed me out.  She simply does not trust him away from her.  Would she be any different if he was locked?  Makes you think.

Click its on again

Well, got home yesterday, my other half and I had a good talk about chastity, and what we each wanted out of it, I said that even though the CB3k was a pain to wear, it restricted me in what trousers I could choose, and generally felt like it got in the way, I strangly missed wearing it.

I wanted to go for a bath to relax after quite a tiring week, and whilst in the bath, my KH asked me to put it back on.. “it will be easier to put on in the bath…”

She was right, in it went, she shut the lock and gave it a good tug to make sure.

Afterwards we had a coffee, and had a very long chat about what we wanted, looked at the manufacturers sites again and went through each design.  Cost never came in to the discussion, and eventually we pretty much decided.

Not much longer and it was almost time for bed, we both lay there, then I saw that famous twinkle in her eye…. time for teasing..

She continued teasing for ages, then it backfired.. she likes to tease me before bed, so that  I go to sleep horny, but if she carries it on too long, she gets too horny to stop.

Except, it was time for her to enjoy, and me to satisfy, but left locked…. it is weird, but strangly satifying, I was left still horny afterwards, but satisfied that she enjoyed it.

We had the usual after sex smoke, chatted some more, then bed…. and yes I woke up horny as hell this morning, locked and confined.

Tollyboy reply

Received a reply from Richard at Tollyboy about my query in his products, I must say Richard comes across as very helpful and willing to do almost anything.  However on chatting with my KH and looking at the Tollyboy design, we both are not sure if its right, Tollyboy use a Radial lock, which requires the key in to lock, takes 5-7 turns to engage, and there is a lock on both the waist band and penis tube, this seems like a lot of fussing to get back in.  Where  as the Neosteel is one padlock, doesn’t require the key and can be shut pretty quick.

A lot to consider, Richard does have the advantage of only being a few hours drive, we will be deciding over the next few weeks, so will see what happens.

Would be interested to hear from any guys out there in a Tollyboy, of your experience, comfort and how you get on with the belt.

Measurements beware….!

Quite an interesting post going on over on Lockmeup, poor Tony bought a Neosteel male sport belt, but by the looks of it did not get the measurements correct, he has had to modify the belt quite extensively, he is planning on getting it modified so that it fits correctly, does its job and then going back to Neosteel to get the modifications made permanently.

This hammers home to all considering how important it is to get the measurements correct, any mistakes could be expensive, inconvenient and a pain in the ass. Remember if it does not fit, it wont do its job. Which is why when we move to steel, I will get measured by the manufacturer, hopefully this will avoid any fitting problems.

Why do it?

I have noticed this come up on many forums and blogs, why the hell would anyone want to wear a chastity device? Most give some level of discomfort, require additional cleaning, rub in some way or another, or generally give the wearer thoughts of “why”… but they continue to wear it anyway.

For me, and when I did wear the CB3k it was morning woody attempts, not being able to  masterbate if I wanted,  and being sexually denied until my keyholder saw fit to release.  I had to spend an extra 5 minutes in the shower each day, and going to the toilet took slightly longer.

So why go through all that?

Both my KH and I always have an agreement, if I dont want to do it anymore, or want out all I have to do is ask, I did once because of the level of discomfort was too much and without any hesitation I was handed the keys, that is and always will be our agreement.

But when we are “playing” normally, its an entirely different world.  Anyone in chastity for fun, or because they want to try, or for whatever reason will tell you the same, they simply love it.  It is hard to explain why, I have tried to my friend T at lunch, but I dont think I got across all the reasons, and trying to get it down in to words is just much harder.

We don’t play “Mistress and Slave”, I dont sit at her feet butt naked except for the CB, and I dont walk around with a dog collar on, its not us, what is us is when I am locked away we both have a heightened level of sexual awareness, she knows I cant, I know I cant, and because of that I want it more, and so does she.

When we do play, which is about the normal consistency as when I am out, its fantastic, its enhanced, stronger, and deeper, also much more satisfying.

We dont use this as a way of stopping me cheating, wanking, or being “naughty”, afterall we got in to this as I won the CB3k in a draw, it cost me 1 Euro, before that neither I nor my KH had ever thought about chastity, now its fun, its something that goes on behind closed door, we are both concenting adults, and we both love each other.  What harm does it do?

Day Dreaming…..

I found myself staring off in to random thoughts earlier today, more as a distraction from the stress at work, at the moment there is a major reshuffle, with the sale of the company, new management and all the joys that go with the announcements of “carry on business as usual”…. yeah right, thats why loads are being made redundant…!

Anyway, I was thinking more and more about the belt, I dont know about others but I crave to tell people I know about this, but then sanity kicks in and tells me they would treat me much differently afterwards…

Its a scary thought to think.. “what if someone at work found out?”… especially someone that works under me, I mean,  as a manager it would loose me some of my “managerial control” or more to it, respect… it would certainly compromise my authority and position…

Then I snapped back to reality and finished some pay reviews…

Advice, and chuckles…

Thanks Alison for the comments, it almost made me chuckle, and also made me think quite a bit about both sexes and how one has advantages/disadvantages over the other. The more you think about the other sex, the more you can see “the grass is greener” effect.

Alison commented – “Men are so lucky about having an alternative to steel, but I must admit that I don’t mind mine at all now.”

I thought quite a lot about just this line, then came comments made by my other half, and some that we have both said looking at pictures on the web of belts being worn.

Yes Men can have a device that has no belt, but after wearing such a device, they are flawed, some can slip out, some can even masturbate without slipping out, some find them uncomfortable (me) and some just cannot wear them. Or the other route is to get a piercing (NO THANKS) and use that to secure the device… not a chance..!

Women on the other hand, look at any belt designed for a woman, its slim fitting, tight against the body, and everything is contained nicely (no experience, just going on appearance), male belts, well… first off the penis has to be crammed in to a tube, then you need to split your balls either side, and close the front plate, if you get it wrong, your balls look lopsided…. and it can almost look comical…

Alison did give some very good advice, and I am working on shedding the love handles and pasta belly, not much to shed, but it will fit and look better when I do, and as she said they do act as a very good weight gaining deterrent…

CB3K Returns….. :(

Had a fantastic weekend, for some unknown reason, perhaps I missed it, perhaps I felt wierd without it, or perhaps I had a lapse of sanity, either way, Friday when I returned home from work, I grabbed the CB3k and locked myself back in…! (moment of madness)

My other half, when she realised what I had done, was litterally beaming… glowing with excitement… and teased me right through until Sunday night…. what a weekend…

Still we talked more on the move to steelpants, and now she cannot wait… comments like “I wonder just how long I could keep you in….”

More Thoughts

Having lunch with T yesterday made me think about the main reasons why we use chastity in our relationship. It is not because of any fear that I may cheat on my other half, it is not to stop me masterbating (or at least it wasn’t when we started), it was the fact that it was a big symbol of how much I love my Significant other, by this symbol I am letting her control our sex life, I am letting her control my penis. How many guys would easily give over complete control of their penis?

My other half loves the fact that she is the one that controls when my penis gets touched, not me. And for me it is actually such a turn on that she is in control.

Guys – if you are wondering what its like, try going for 2-3 days without touching your penis, no fiddling, and no wanking, try to stretch for 3 days…. see how you go.

Update from Tollyboy

I posted on Lockmeup to ask if anyone had heard from Richard, as I was yet to recieve a reply from him, Susan has been in contact and posted this reply -

To LMU members who want to contact Tollyboy: I received this note from him to pass on to you.

“Richard’s partner has injured herself badly in Greece (you may attach picture) and he is taking care of her and has limited access to the Net. He hopes to get back soon.”

Unfortunately I can’t post the image here, but I’ve seen it and she’s really hurting. Try him again after this weekend.

Best Wishes

Susan

So if you are trying to reach Richard, please keep in mind he has more important person business to attend to, and Richard if you read this, I really do wish you and your partner my best wishes. Speedy recovery and all my best.

Lunch, chat, and beer…..

I want to thank T for an interesting, amuzing and great lunch on Friday, besides the forcing me for an extra beer, we had a good chat. T is a friend from a previous job, laid back, and a friend that knows about my journey with my Significant Other.

Today we had a chat, it started with “you still locked then?” and that led down the road of the journey up to date and the move to steel pants, I showed T my blog, he laughed and although he knows pretty much the full story could not believe I was so willing to go to steel, its the ultimate in anti-wank pants.

I tried to explain why, but I dont know if T got why, and T if you check out my blog again, click on the link to Altarboys site, there are some interesting stories on there that may shed some light.

Anyway I told T about the options, and which one we are likely to go with, he thinks I am mad, but said “if it works…. “

Reply from LIS

Got a reply from Jillian at Locked In Steel, she was very friendly in her reply, and offered some good advice, just waiting on the reply from Tollyboy now. Will update when I get that.

Her delight…? or disappointment?

I completely forgot to do a review of the new addition to the CBxK from Keptforher called “Her Delight“. We had preordered this as soon as it was available, it looked like a wicked idea, something that could be attached to the A Ring of a CBxK, resembling an erect penis, with your mans bits crammed inside, allowing you to pleasure your KH but receiving no stimulation yourself.

That was the idea anyway, but in reality it was a huge disappointment. When it eventually arrived, we opened it, and my KH said “bloody hell thats wide…” They says its 1 1/2 inches wide, but its in an oblong shape width ways, and makes it extremely wide. The build quality of the device is ok, but the posts to give it stabilty for connecting to the A ring were terrible, ours kept falling out, and because of this, it would not point forwards, more drooped between my legs.

There was no option for locking it on to the A ring, and overall because it moved too much, not enough room for my penis, and its overall dimensions we never actually used it. Completely disappointed. I have noticed that they have revised it now, the overall dimensions are the same outsite, but internally there is more room, and now it also supports being locked on, however the posts are still removable and dont look anymore stable.

Would I recommend it? Sorry but that has to be a no.

Choices choices….

Moving to a steel belt is not an easy decision as I had perhaps thought it could be, there are things to consider. How active are you? Does your job require a lot of sitting down, lifting, moving things.

Well my job requires me to sit down a lot, and this has helped narrow down the choices. I have decided on 3 manufacturers, and sticking with those only, they are -

• Neosteel Male Sport Belt – Very appealing design, climate tube, and over all very good reviews for comfort and security. Thong design, but according to emails back and forward from Neosteel the cable can be moved to one side for going to the toilet
• Tollyboy Male Thong Hip Belt – I like the idea of Tollyboy, however I am not sure on the design, the penis tube does not cover the entire “item”, and it looks like the cable is solid, so not sure, have emailed Tollyboy and waiting their reply
• Locked In Steel Hip Belt – These guys do a “Chains Style” belt, but instead of chains, you can have steel cable that others use in their thong design, genuis. Have emailed Jillian and waiting her reply to my query.

I cannot see why other manufacturers dont offer the same option as Locked in Steel, I could see it being a very popular option, having the same design as a “Chains Style” belt but using Steel Cables, very comfy and no rattle of chains, nice one Jillian. I wonder if the others will start doing this design soon?

Nite Nite 3K

The 3k has been really uncomfortable, and after being removed for cleaning found out why, the front of the cage where the seams are, its starting to split on the seam. There is now a sharp edge which has actually cut my penis. Not good.

The 3k has gone in to retirement, and now the move to steel pants looks much closer…! Starting to get nervous… especially as my other half mentioned “once we get the belt, I can see just how long I can keep you in it, obviously out for cleaning, but see how long you can go….” with a twinkle in her eye, I could almost see the devilish thoughts… I love my KH…!

CB3k – Driving me nuts

Over the past couple of days, the CB3k has given me the worst sleep pattern possible, being constantly woken at night, various times with “buring balls” syndrome. Anyone that has worn one will tell you, its a constant battle with the A ring size, if you go for one too small, you get really sore ball sack skin, if you go for one too loose then it moves too much with “woody” attempts, and gives you a burning feeling.

If I use the middle sized ring it is slightly too small, and hurts in the morning, I mean bent over pain, clutching groin and trying to rip the bugger off. So normally second ring down from largest is the one I go for. Because of this its slightly too big, so any morning woody attempts and I get burning balls, really does feel like the skin is on fire!

This morning was no exception, was woken up 4 times in the night, I did try previously putting some lube under the ring and on my sack, this used to be pretty effective, but appears to offer no help any more, really getting hacked off with the CB3k, and cant wait for a change.

Last night my other half and I discussed the move to steel pants again, she is actually starting to look forward to it, again asked me “are you sure you want to be more secure?”

“Yes, absolutely…….”

Which Belt?

Which belt to go for is the big question…?

The one I prefer most has got to be the Neosteel Male Sports belt, having looked through every forum I can find, and posting asking for recommendations and experience, it has come out by far in the lead for what I require. Because of my job, I spend a lot of time sitting behind a desk, chain belts are not good for sitting down a lot.

I have come across people posting bad reviews on this belt as well, but what works for one person may not work for another. Also one of the big things you must get right from the get go in steel belts is the measurements, this is critical if it is ever to fit you right. Not only that but even when you get it, and the measurements are correct, chances are it still will not fit you and will take at least a few weeks to get comfortable. This is because the belt will require to be bent in to your shape. As well as bending the belt it will take your body time to adjust.

I have come across many posts with people saying “this belt, that belt, all rubbish, didnt fit, uncomfortable, blah blah” and on most I noticed they tried the belt for a couple of weeks, and some even trying to go 24/7 after only receiving it and having never worn a steel belt before.

Madness….

Even when I first got the CB3k it took some time for my body to adjust, and even now, if I dont wear it for a day or so, it takes time to re-adjust. You cant expect your body to just take such a drastic change so quickly.

However as I dont have experience of a steel belt, we will see how I get on when it happens.

The picture for this blog is the belt I am considering to get.

Reasons against the CB3k

Over time, I dont know about others, but I do research something as much as possible, the CB3k I didnt actually research until it was locked on..!

Since then I have found out so much about it, spent months trying different underwear and trousers to get comfy, hide the bulge in my pants and generally get to live with it 24/7. Going to work for the first time was terrifying, meeting family members was heart thumping, especially when Mum wants to give you a hug…!

The worst was probably when I had to fly for a business trip. On the morning I had to leave both my SO and I tore the house apart looking for the plastic tamper locks, Airport scanners had me terrified at the thought of it going beep as me going through with the lock on then having to explain it…!

Time was getting closer to leaving and still couldnt find them, so in the end I went with the normal padlock on, and fingers crossed.

Going through airport security I could hear my heart thumping, and stepping through the metal detector was the longest 2 seconds of my life. But no beep was heard and I was flagged on.

Since then and like I said above I have actually always been wary of the bulge in my pants, and having tried pants of every design, I found some that offer comfort, and hide it quite well, however I only have 3 pair of trousers that I can wear, and cannot wear any of my jeans.

I find in jeans they are too tight and when I sit down it pulls the CB close to my body, pushes in hard and sore, and is just to damned uncomfortable.

If you knew me, you would know, I am a jeans person through and through, no ifs buts or maybe’s… Jeans…

So for this and the fact of the bulge, these are the main reasons for moving to steel pants, a belt that will hold everything close, and give no indication of whats there, ideal… yes please.

My otherhalf thinks I am nuts, she thinks that once locked it will drive me even more nuts, she said to me the other night “you want to be more secure?”

In a way yes, hiding the bulge, wearing jeans, and getting around being less self aware of showing that there is something going on down there is a big part of the change, but deep down, being much more secure is strangly another part of it. I never thought chastity could be such a turn on, but it is. Everyone in a way is the same, what you cant have, you want more.

The thought of a steel belt, being put on, then hearing that click of the lock as it shuts… some blokes say it sends shivers down their back, well in a weird way, I want those shivers…!

The beginning – where to start?

Who would have thought that 6 months ago my wife and I would fall in to the world of Male Chastity? If anyone had come to me and said you are going to lock your penis away and give your SO the key to hold and decide when you can touch or relieve your penis… “yeah right”….

Well it did happen, by complete accident and possibly fate if you beleive in that we ended up with a CB3000, for all those who dont know what one is, look here

Scarey to all you blokes eh? Imagine locking away your bits in to a plastic shell, you can see, but cannot touch…! Nice..

I remember when I first saw it, “what the hell….” and stupidly curiosity got the better of me and on it went…

Now months later and what a ride, our life has turned a different track, we are now much more than hubby and wife, much more than locked and keyholder, and much more than best friends. I honestly do enjoy being in chastity with my other half deciding when and if I get release, but there is still part of me that occasionally resists, I dont know why, it just does, but once I am locked back up, I am content again, and the hornometer starts to register activity.

Up until recently we were both happy with the 3k, until I found that I can actually still masterbate with it on, and this has just left me disappointed and almost frustrated, so much so that I am now looking at investing in a proper chastity belt.

Manufacturers such as Neosteel, Tollyboy and LockedinSteel are the choices I am looking at, me being located in the UK, sense would say Tollyboy, but for some reason I dont actually like their designs.

I actually prefer the look of the Neosteel, or the LockedinSteel, both thong devices.

Over the next few months I will be making a purchase and then getting used to the selected belt, so hence the reason I have started this blog, I will write down each part of the journey and the end results. See where it takes us…